Religious Trauma & Cult Recovery Blog

The term “toxic relationship” is thrown around on the inter-webs a lot and it can leave you asking your self, “Wait, am I in a toxic relationship? How do I know? And what exactly do I do about it?” 

Toxic relationships are most simply defined as being relationships that leave you feeling repressed,...

Codependent folks are hard workers. When you learn that you have a tricky relational dynamic, your instinct to work hard to change those patterns kicks into high gear. You were already tired before you started the healing journey, and that’s likely how you discovered codependency; by furiously resea...

When someone first learns about the idea of codependency, they can fall in to a panic around collecting information about how to stop these exhausting and toxic dynamics. But, for all the research that is out there, you might come across some myths that aren’t actually true about codependency. I’m g...

Oh the dreaded people-pleasing. I know, it can be a tough pill to swallow to be described as a people-pleaser. Oftentimes we finally come to this realization when we acknowledge our exhaustion, overwhelm, and find ourselves having a hard time asserting our boundaries. 

Does that sound like you? 

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If you are here, it’s likely you’ve read a list of symptoms identifying you as a people-pleaser or someone has used this phrase to describe you. If this is a new revelation for you, you might be frantically on the hunt to know how the heck to overcome these people-pleasing tendencies. I am here to h...

Leaving a religious community or cult is very difficult work. You are leaving your community of people, your belief system, and much of what you know. This process is destabilizing, as you uproot and change your life. After leaving your group, you probably have complicated feelings about your relati...